What’s the point of mom shaming ? Why are moms constantly at war with each other over differences in the way we choose to parent our children. Just because you choose one way to do things or I choose another way to do things doesn’t mean either of us are wrong.
Being a new parent is hard enough. So much information is constantly shoved down our throats by family, friends, doctors, midwives, THE INTERNET (lol, because most of us get all our info from binge watching YouTube videos. I’m definitely guilty of that one) you notice all of the advice we are given all conflicts with each other. Being pregnant is hard enough let alone sorting through all the information.
Then, all of a sudden before you know it, your baby is here. And all the information you spent all this time sorting through kind of goes out the window and your mama instincts kick in and you all of a sudden kind of just know what to do. It’s the weirdest feeling isn’t it ?
If you really take a step back you will notice that every mom has a common theme, we do the best we can to give our babies the best lives we can. That’s it. No matter what path we choose to go down we go down that path with love. All we want is for our babies to feel loved and to be healthy. So why make a mom feel guilty for the decisions she has chosen ? What do you personally gain from that ? I cloth diaper. But I don’t tear down moms who choose disposable diapers…. if that works for your family, so be it. My saying is, “do what works for your family.” What works for you and your child, might not work for mine.
Which brings me to this next thought. I took my baby to his WIC appointment and the lady goes, “oh wow he’s finally gaining weight, he’s in the 10th percentile for his age.” I said, “I’m sorry? Should I be shoving food down his throat to make him gain more ? Because if I did next thing you know you will tell me he’s obese??” I know that sounds snappy but there is no such thing as a cookie cutter baby. Every single baby is different. Every pregnancy is different. It bugged me so bad when they would weigh me at my OBGYN appointments and said I’m gaining too much for where I’m at in my pregnancy… like I’m sorry I’m not shoving food down, I don’t know why I’m gaining so much? Once I switched to a midwife I was much happier. But the point is, each journey will be different. Let’s be kind to one another. Let’s reroute our time and effort we put into judging other mamas and their decisions to giving our babies more love and cuddles. Because we all know time flies. No one has time for negativity.
Meanwhile here’s a picture of Zethus with his twin cousins. ♥️