Baby #2

So my baby is 4 months old. And I’m ready for baby number 2. I know call me crazy (I’ve already had so much hate thrown my way so literally whatever your thinking right now someone has already told me). BUT hear me out. There is 4 years between my brother and I. Then my youngest brother there is 10 years. Growing up we all had different friends and we’re in different times in our life. Even now none of us can relate to each other. I don’t want that for my children. I want them all to be best friends. To love each other. To have each other’s back. To go to school together. To not dread that “the annoying little brother” is tagging along. Plus. Let’s say I wait until Zethus is 5 before we try again. That means I’ve spent 5 years in the newborn/toddler stage. Just to turn around and do it all over again. That means I’ve spent 10 years raising toddlers. NO THANK YOU. I’ll pass on that. Idk like I said before call me crazy. But I wouldn’t mind doing this stage all at once and only being tired for a few years. (Not that being tired ever stops when you have kids😂) but EVERYONE says to wait. However, funny thing is. Not one of these people pay my bills, but they ALWAYS have an opinion. And then wonder why I isolate myself. Because I DON’T get the support from my family. I’m always being told I’m doing something wrong. Or need to do it a different way. Makes me feel like I don’t have things under control. When in reality I run on a routine everyday. I keep my house clean. I run on a schedule. I actually feel like I have everything under control. But people insert their opinions and constantly undermine me. This was the reason I wanted to move away. So I could live my life, my way. But now for other reasons that my boyfriend is going through we are moving back home. And I’m TERRIFIED that my family and just people in general will constantly insert their opinions even more. And that will drive me more crazy than having two toddlers running around. I can deal with the babies and toddlers. It’s the grown adults who I can’t deal with. I didn’t understand how much MOM SHAMING happens. Even if it’s from your own family. I want 3-4 kids. And Moses knows this. He’s on board with everything. I think at this point I don’t care what other people think. Especially because they DON’T pay my bills. so if you don’t pay my bills. Don’t insert your opinion. Okay rant over. meanwhile here is a cute picture of Zethus.

8 thoughts on “Baby #2”

  1. What an adorable little baby!
    And I think your reasons for wanting another baby make perfect sense! My hubby and I were just talking about not wanting to wait too long before having another for those exact reasons! (We just need to get into a better financial situation first.)
    It’s like you said, it’s your life and you’re the one paying the bills! It’s 100% your decision.

  2. Thank you so much for the support. Can you convince my family of this way of thinking too ?! Jkjk. It feels good to have someone to be able to understand my way of thinking. I just want my kids to grow up together. That’s all.

  3. Go for it! Those are perfect reasons for trying for #2! I’ve got a 13 month old & we’re trying for #2 for those same reasons!!

  4. Haha I’m still trying to figure out how to convince my parents to believe me half the time!
    But I completely understand. There are 16 years between me and my siblings. And while I love them so much, I always wanted a brother or sister close to my age. And I always told myself I would give my kids that!

  5. And it’s like you thank your parents for giving you siblings. But having them close in age mAkes all the difference in the world. I see how close my man is to his two twin sisters and I want that so badly for my children.

  6. Girl, people will try to run your life as if you are a character on The Sims! I can’t tell you how many unsolicited comments or advice I received about my kids. And for some reason ‘people’ are never satisfied with how YOU are living YOUR life. If you have one kid, they ask when are you having another one, if you have 2 kids and want a 3rd they tell you that’s too much…I say this to say, DO YOU. You know what you want, you know what makes you happy – DO IT! Plus babies are cute and sweet.:-)

  7. Your life your choices… If my hubby had it his way our 2 littlest would be like a year apart but with the whole infertile thing it didn’t work out that way, that being said I personally love that Sunday and Dalton are only 2 years and 9 months apart and I think that is perfect it’s the same age gap as me n my sis and we are super close, that being said I’m also close with my oldest sister is 12 years older than me and we are close as well I think a lot has to do with personality… my 2 oldest kids are 6 years apart and they never really played together or anything ! There were a lot more fights then fun time with them so I prefer them closer in age! Best of luck to you!

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